Do you believe that you have the ability to create your own life? To make it what you want it to be?
I definitely do! And so does Jen Sincero, of "You Are a Badass." I read this book while on a plane ride a few months ago, and it's been on my mind ever since (you should def read it too!).
Create the life you want!
So many of us go through life in reaction mode. We plod along, content in our current state, until something happens to shake us out of our reverie...or make us change course...instead of actively and intentionally CREATING the life we really want.
The sad part is that there is SO much more out there for us. If we only knew what was possible, what lay around the corner, if we'd only stretched ourselves a little further.
As Jen says, "Most people are so wrapped up in the BS [of everyday life] that they're settling for realities that are waaaaaaaay beneath what's available to them....Much of the time we pretend we aren't clear on what our calling is when what's really going on is that we're horrified to face it because it seems too big or too impossible to make a living at or completely out of the question for us."
So how do I get over my fear?
It's not easy, but it is possible. For one thing, just remember that "you can't screw up so majorly that your badassery disappears. It is who you are. It's who you always will be. It's not up for negotiation."
Whether you believe it or not, you were created for a purpose. Only you know what that purpose is, and until you know, you are on a journey. There are no right or wrong answers. "There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you're here."
How do I get started? First of all, realize that "everything you do along your journey contributes to where you're going....[Your] life is either moving forward and evolving or shrinking back and dying." You get to choose which. If you're doing nothing, you're shrinking back and dying, whether you realize it or not.
Great things don't "just happen" to people. They are the result of years of hard work and setbacks and finally growth. So take control of your own destiny!
1. Get clear on your dream goal.
Write it down if you have to. Pin it above your mirror or stick it on your laptop. You need to see it every day.
2. Take action.
Make a list of things you can do to move you in the direction of your goal. Start working toward your goal, thinking about your goal, talking about your goal. All the time, everywhere.
When making decisions about your life, Sincere suggests that you ask yourself these 3 questions:
1. Is this something I want to be, do, or have?
2. Is this going to take me in the direction I want to go (not should go)?
3. Is this going to screw over anybody else in the process?
3. Push through.
Obstacles will arise. When they do, push through and keep going. "Obstacles and challenges are the agents of growth."
4. Things will start to happen. Say yes.
After you've been working on your goal for a while, it's like the universe can hear your thoughts and your words; opportunities and suggestions will start to come your way. "We're surrounded by this big, all-you-can-eat buffet of incredible experiences and insights and feelings and opportunities and things and people and ways to share our gifts with the world, and all we have to do is align our energy with what we want and take decisive action to allow this good into our lives."
Does that sound hokey? Too good to be true? Try it. I dare you. Give it a good shot, though. These things take time. It's not an overnight thing. One day, you'll look back and realize you're making progress (or maybe that you achieved your goal!).
"Keep moving, keep growing, keep pushing through obstacles, keep evolving. You break through at one level, arrive at the next, and take another step up." The funny thing about "big dreams" is that once you reach them, your dreams just get bigger. You start to realize all of the unlimited possibilities available right in front of you. This is where I'm currently at and let me tell you, it's a good place to be :)
So what is your dream goal? Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10? What are you doing today to get yourself there?